#Aloof meaning how to#

You receive more calls, texts, and emails than you make, unless you have no choice.

If you think a person is angry because of something to do with you, his or her gaze becomes a threat.

Ponari and her team believe that this is because they are more sensitive to potentially negative evaluations. This suggests that people high in introversion might be less inclined to look at someone who seems mad. Introverts show this effect just as extraverts do, but if the person’s face seems angry, they seem not to show the gaze-cuing effect. According to research by University College London psychologist Marta Ponari and collaborators, people high in introversion fail to show what’s called the “gaze-cuing effect.” Normally, if you were to see the image of a person’s face on a computer screen looking in a certain direction, you would follow that person’s gaze-and therefore respond more quickly to a visual target on that side of the screen compared to when the person’s gaze and the target are pointed in opposite directions. You’re likely to try to avoid people who seem like they might be in a bad mood. You prefer not to engage with people who seem angry or upset.Now you have the added protection of your headphones (though no one has to know whether there’s actually music coming through them or not). In decades past, if you wanted to avoid interacting with strangers, you would keep your head down and look straight in front of you. Whether it’s making your way through a crowded bus station or just navigating a crowded street, if you’re an introvert you most likely don’t seek a great deal of contact with others. You often wear headphones when you’re in a public situation.Because of this, and because your advice may indeed be highly valued, it’s likely that if you’re constantly being asked “What do you think?” it might suggest that your behavior sends cues to others of your inner desire to focus your attention and thoughts inward.

#Aloof meaning how to#

Whether it’s a family discussion around the kitchen table or a staff meeting to decide how to market new products, people high in introversion will keep their views to themselves and let the noisy extraverts take control.

Just as introverts are less likely to volunteer in public situations, they are also less likely to volunteer opinions or advice in less public settings.

Other people ask you for your opinion.

It’s not that introverts know less than others they just don’t feel a particular need to be in that limelight. You are probably more of an introvert than an extravert if you are content to sit back and let others take center stage. Extraverts tend to be ready and eager to stand out in any academic or social situation. As you might remember from your elementary school days, there were some fellow students whose hands shot straight up into the air when the teacher asked a question or needed someone to volunteer.

You’re the last to raise your hand when someone asks for something from a group.

Then you’ll need to partner with an extroverted yin to your yang. It’s only when the group needs a spark provided by its head that introverts might be unable to provide the necessary guidance. If the group is ready to lead itself, then the introverted leader will draw the most potential out of them. Despite the belief that introverts are so quiet that they can’t step up to the plate and run things, under the right circumstances they can be the best leaders of all.

You lead best when others are self-starters.

Having the opportunity to reflect quietly on a problem allows you to make the maximum use of your ability to engage in original thought and to produce results about which you can feel proud. You’re not opposed to group meetings or discussions, but if you want to come up with a creative solution, you need some time to work the problem out on your own.

Your best thinking occurs when you’re by yourself.

That quiet time is important to your sense of well-being even though there are plenty of times that you enjoy social get-togethers. When you have the chance to take a break, you’d rather spend time reading, playing video games, or just listening to music. See how many you feel honestly apply to you: Are you an introvert?

These nine behavioral signs of introversion can give you a start in learning about traits and attitudes that suggest your own personality may be less outer-oriented than you realize.